“This is not the life we dreamed of,” I said. “Let’s shake things up. Nothing is off the table.” | He agreed. | We changed our lives completely.
It’s been less than a year since I realized that my husband and I were at a breaking point in our overly busy lives. We were both professionals climbing our way through our careers. We found that not only had we given up the activities we enjoyed for ourselves, but we found ourselves struggling with our children. They needed more time with us and, naturally, were acting out.
We were performing great at our jobs. At home, however, we were struggling. While we could continue with the careers we had, and wanted, that would require continued sacrifice of our time together. We were both tired of missing out on time with our children, then age 4 to 12.
“This is not the life we dreamed of,” I said. “Let’s shake things up. Nothing is off the table.” He agreed.
We slowed down to tune in to what we really want in life and completely redesign it. We did just that. Today, we work less, enjoy the activities we had given up, and spend more time together as a couple and with our children. We’ve relaxed and so have our children.
We both had a variety of options for how to move forward. Our potential paths could have kept us local, taken us across the U.S., or even moved us abroad. Due to circumstances with his employer, we had less than a month to make life- and career-changing decisions for both of us. It could have felt overwhelming. It didn’t We made clear value- and emotion-informed decisions at each turning point. We surprised ourselves with our conclusion, yet both felt firm that it was the best path. The resulting decisions were life-changing: we both gave up our careers and will soon move from one coast to another.
In fact, once we let go of what was not working for us, a new path emerged rather quickly and easily.
I believe this is key — the courage and willingness to let go. And. Let. Things. Fall. Apart. So they can fall into place.
By turning inward and identifying the core values around which we wanted to rebuild our lives, we gave ourselves a clear map for these changes. Since then, our entire family has been happier. We enjoy downtime connecting to ourselves and to each other.
I want to share this process with you.
The main lessons I have gleaned in this process are:
It’s OK to let go of what isn’t working.
It’s OK to let things fall apart.
Nobody else will put you and your family first. Nobody.
I am here to guide you through the process. You are the architect of your life. You can build a life you love from the inside (Soul) out with these simple practices (Steady).
As a Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist who has worked with couples and families to help them change their lives, I am accustomed to the ways we stop ourselves from realizing our dreams. This program is designed to help you get in touch with how you are getting in the way of your own success and make the changes you need to live Soul and Steady.