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Sometimes, Doing Nothing is Doing Something
What a week. I have gone from the high of connecting with dear long-time friends for the first time since I moved to California to the low of having three kids with covid while processing yet another national tragedy. I feel enraged. I feel sad. I feel hopeless. I...
Invisible Decisions
Decision-making is tied to the depletion of willpower. Every decision we make throughout the day depletes our will reserves. (Baumeister, Tice, & Vohs, 2018). As a parent of four children, I make a lot of decisions. As the partner of someone working extra during...
Nature as a Metaphor
I just returned from a yoga retreat on the island Isla Mujeres in Mexico. We enjoyed daily practice from a second-story yoga platform overlooking the water. We rolled out our mats in the mornings before breakfast and in the evenings just before dinner. Sometimes, the...
Shifting from Shame Systems to Support Systems
When I see successful people, I look for the support systems that buoy them. Often, they are hidden in the shadows. Invisible. They are found in supportive partners, overachieving assistants, community connections, domestic help, financial support from families, and...
Soul and Steady Parenting Group: Cultivating Inspiration and Connection
How has parenting during a pandemic changed parenting for you? The biggest thing that stands out to me, and it is underscored by our relatively recent move, is the lack of community. When my husband deployed to Afghanistan, I had family nearby, friends a phone call...
Soul Prints: Seasonal Self-Care Workshops
I am offering four Soul Prints: Seasonal Self-Care Workshops. The first workshop will take place on the Spring Equinox on March 20, 2021. I hope you will join me and a small group of others as we use the arts to explore and concretize goals for the next three months....
Statement on Impact of COVID-19
Soul & Steady I conceived of this website before the impact of COVID-19 hit. The idea came to me when I realized I wanted more flexibility at work. I also wanted more time for my family and myself. Ultimately, I wanted to restructure my job so I could "take my...
Simplify Life
Sometimes, when I want to simplify life, I look outside for a solution. I tend to look for something to add to what I have or am doing in order to make life manageable. For example, my impulse is to search for a drawer organizer to simplify life by making it easier to...
Let Things Fall Apart
Are you afraid to speak up for yourself or draw boundaries at work because it feels like everything will fall apart? Then it is time to speak your truth and draw boundaries that take care of you. It may even be time to walk away. That's right--time to walk away. I am...