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Dear Helpers
Dear Helpers, I see you. As a psychotherapist who has experience working in trauma and grief, I have a sense of the space you are holding. Currently, I am not working fulltime as a psychotherapist. I have been focusing on transitioning my family after our...
A Place to Explore
Seven months after our cross-country move to start a new life, we still haven't found the right house. We are renting while our search continues. The supply has been thin, hopefully, that will change in the spring. Much of our criteria are flexible. One is not:...
When Self-Care is Self-Harm
Cultivating a Sense of Wonder in the Everyday
Why Families Need Downtime
Sometimes, Doing Nothing is Doing Something
What a week. I have gone from the high of connecting with dear long-time friends for the first time since I moved to California to the low of having three kids with covid while processing yet another national tragedy. I feel enraged. I feel sad. I feel hopeless. I...
Invisible Decisions
Decision-making is tied to the depletion of willpower. Every decision we make throughout the day depletes our will reserves. (Baumeister, Tice, & Vohs, 2018). As a parent of four children, I make a lot of decisions. As the partner of someone working extra during...
Nature as a Metaphor
I just returned from a yoga retreat on the island Isla Mujeres in Mexico. We enjoyed daily practice from a second-story yoga platform overlooking the water. We rolled out our mats in the mornings before breakfast and in the evenings just before dinner. Sometimes, the...
Shifting from Shame Systems to Support Systems
When I see successful people, I look for the support systems that buoy them. Often, they are hidden in the shadows. Invisible. They are found in supportive partners, overachieving assistants, community connections, domestic help, financial support from families, and...